Impluse Interests

Do you find yourself wanting to do EVERYTHING that interests you? or BUY everything that interests you? Supermarkets are great at this, putting little items near the cashier to get you to buy it on impulse? or at a clothes stores, or at a computer store? There are so many different items/ideas to get hooked on in an instant.

I’ve heard people mention that in today’s society we have very low attention span, low patience. We decide to committ to certain things on an impulse like “oh I’d like to do that, or I’d like to buy it” and then after we learn that things are not so interesting, it is dropped. We are busy with many different things but we can never COMMIT to anything. It’s like we want to do everything, but not determined enough to work to get it.

I’m just wondering if I’ve overcommitted myself in my life. Looking at my schedule, I aim to do as many things as I find useful and enjoyable (even if it’s doing nothing). I do get a lot of invitations that I have to consider if I want to committ to. Here’s an example:.

For you Toastmaster people, I just cannot accept ALL evaluation or judge invitations, especially if my main role is a leadership position, like division governor. As much as I’d love to attend them all, I have to consider my priorities, which is now for the Division. The dangerous thing is to accept invitations on impulse.

Another of my growing interests is music, especialy Salsa music…especially dancing to salsa music. I frequently look at places to learn and places to practice. I’ve decided in my mind that I do want to commit to learning this skills and I am willing to put in more than 1 day a week. The question is, how much is enough, how much can I committ? I just started up salsa again 2 months ago I am wondering (as I usually do) if it is one of those passing interests, an impulse interest. Well, so far so good, I haven’t lost motivation yet.

Picking the right career is something that occupies my mind frequently. From time to time I get different ‘ideas’ on what would be a career I’m passionate about. Since starting my ‘hiatis’, some of those ‘ideas’ have been Change Management consultant, Talent Management, Hospitality / Services trainer, Enterpreneur, and now to Career Management…and this could go on. These names I just mentioned are just some interests that came to my mind out of nowhere, maybe from reading a book or browsing the internet. Maybe one of these could be something I’m interested in…geniunly.

I’ve realized that many people find their ‘calling’ or passion but not by picking it from a list of possible career paths, but by discovering it. Some may find it in the new, but many find that they have always had it within them, and that they’ve been ignoring it all along and it’s just a matter of letting it surface. That news is comforting as I too am doing what I can to let my calling surface, and I’m not worried about how long it will take, even if it seems others are getting ahead of me in their life. I think I’ve come to terms with that. I just know that it’s going to happen one day. And it’s not going to be out of impulse, it’s going to be REAL.


Yummy Salsa!

Yah, so finally after much delay, I’ve enrolled myself in Salsa classes. I’ve already had lessons before a few months ago, as well as when i was in college. It’s good to ‘relearn’ salsa from the basics because I have formed some bad habits over the years. If i’m going to learn salsa, might as well learn it the proper way.

Salsa class was predominantly female. There was about 1 guy for every 2.5 girls, and the class was about 20 people. Where all the guys went…i dunno. One of my classmates said that she believes Singaporean guys are very ‘conservative’. So they believe salsa is too feminine for them (ie. they don’t want to look gay). I think there were only 2 singaporean guys out of the 6 guys that were there. So more girls is good…it’s very good for a one simple reason: we guys will get more practice. We MUST get more practice because in any dance involving 2 people, the guy MUST lead.

I’ll be honest, the reason why I don’t go out and for social salsa-ing is because the guy must know how to lead the girl…and I have high expectations for myself. I don’t mind going out for clubbing and there happens to be salsa music, the expectation is lower because not many people know how to salsa. If I go to a salsa club, then there are more people who are skilled in the dance. So that’s why I’m working from the basics to basic competence…and so forth from that.

I have no idea why some guys think that salsa is less masculine. Is it because he must shake his hips? I can’t think of any other reason that make guys look less guy. On the other hand, learning how to dance salsa makes him even MORE of a man. He moves as one with the woman; he leads her with confidence and she follows. Simply amazing. I probably think it’s a dream of every woman to be in a passionate dance with a handsome man and to be swept off her feet. I don’t know if it’s true, but I won’t mind sweeping a girl off her feet!

I met some interesting people at the class. After class I got to know a few of them better: a guy from Canada who works at NUS, his colleague from Malaysia who studied in Australia, and a girl studied in Canada for 2 years. Since we are going to be touching er I mean dancing with each other, might as well be friends.

Oh yah so much fun!